Our view is that there are some jobs that we all just do because that's what you do in a family. If I get home with a boot full of groceries, The Potterer (TP) helps me to carry them upstairs. If TP is changing the sheets on the beds, I will help him do the corners. They are nobodys jobs, because they are everybodys jobs and I want T to grow up knowing that we help each other out, for no other reason than we are family and that's what you do.
So, knowing that we have a few years up our sleeves before we really have to think about pocket money we haven't 'gone there' yet.
And as great as praise and instrinsic motivation is great for kids, we found that there were a
A quick trip to the $2 shop and The Marble Jar was born. Notice the capitalisation? That's because this thing is revered in our house. By all of us.
At the moment he gets a marble in the jar inconsistantly- it might be when he does something without being asked- unloading the fruit from the grocery bags into the fruit bowl, or wiping down the table after dinner or it's for doing things the first time he is asked- like getting his shoes on before we go out. He hasn't come to expect a marble for anything, he hasn't been asking whether he gets a marble before he does the job but the look on his face when we say "Well done! Let's go get a marble!" is just priceless.
The plan is that when the marble jar is full, he can choose a treat. Whether it is an extra trip to the library, or the lagoon, going to see a movie or choosing a toy or book at the shops. A little savings plan you might say... At the moment though, he doesn't even care about the end result- getting a marble is thrill enough.